A more powerful solution than what might be grasped by the more dominating left side of the brain!
Here is what I would say to her, or to anyone who is struggling with the “aftermath” of a personal “crash” . . .
Well at least you sound “realistic” … which is a GOOD thing!!!
Be aware of what/who “sucks your energy” in a day, and be sure to limit THAT interaction as much as possible!
You are the ONLY one who can ever take care of YOU!!!
Would you please do something for me?
Even if you do nothing else … will you please begin now to “chart” all of this?
Would you keep a record, or a diary, of intake and “output,” … and use it as another avenue to let off steam!?
This journal will not be for me to see … but for YOU and you alone! I only want to know the RESULTS of your doing this.
The only secret I can ever tell you, about “how” to journal … is to KEEP it absolutely PRIVATE!!! Guard it with your life, so that you can say ANYTHING you ever want/need to say!!!! Things you wouldn’t even tell your best friend!!!
For eventually, it’s your journal that will BECOME your “best friend” … and before you know it … the realization will hit you … that it is YOU who is your “best friend” after all!!!!
This can be MORE HELPFUL to you … than ANYTHING else you do in your “working of your plan!”
Trust me on this. Please. It is VERY important.
And one more thing: Before you finish out ANY day in your journal … be sure to ALSO write down 2 to 10 things for which you are grateful!
You may think I am talking extraneous stuff by including this … almost like me suggesting a “daily vitamin!”
But this is more than that.
I can’t make you DO this part, but I CAN tell you how important it is. Please give it a try, no matter WHAT you’re eating and doing and feeling!!!!! Don’t wait for the “good stuff” … write it ALL down … NOW!!!
Doctor’s orders?????
Maybe.
If that phrase and that thought will help you to make this part of things a commitment to yourself, then it is worth it. And know that I will never ever EVER ask to see your journal!!!! NO one should ever see it. It is your gift to you!!!
She responded to this VERY well:
Thanks Sandy,
That sounds like a really good idea. I’ll hop over to Office depot today after work and get something to write in.
I’ll let you know how it goes.
Thanks again.
Now let’s give her some time to see if she treats this as SERIOUSLY as it deserves to be treated.
People so often brush this off as “fluff” . . . or as something that is the first to be brushed aside. But it can really make or break a person’s success in their ability to understand themselves and manifest that change they seek!
If you’re a reading dealing with anything similar to this, be sure that YOU take this seriously . . . and “just do it!”